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Help! I’m drowning in endless minutiae!!!!

April 17, 2026April 17, 2026 Iris Ruth Pastor

Drowning in minutiae? Longing to embrace a life less harnessed to your To-Do List? Read on….  Every three months a super glossy magazine comes out called “Where Women Create – Inspiring Work Spaces of Extraordinary Women.”  Published by Stampington &Company’s Somerset Studio, it’s a delight to the senses – filled with feature articles on women Continue reading

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When the Unspeakable Happens Again

April 10, 2026April 10, 2026 Iris Ruth Pastor

As April 15 approaches, I run the same column I do every year in memory of the very best friend I ever had. This year I’m running my letter to her in shortened form because there is an update…  Dear Andrea, On April 15, 2026, it will be fifty-one years since I’ve seen you.  No one knows Continue reading

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It’s Always the Same Routine…Until It Isn’t

April 3, 2026April 3, 2026 Iris Ruth Pastor

It’s always the same routine: Why?Because for so many years, whenever I returned home, my parents waited eagerly at the top of that same escalator for the first glance of me, their eldest child, returning home. It is an unusually warm, balmy night for the month of March in Ohio. I pull-up to snap a Continue reading

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Who in the Hell Can You Trust?

March 27, 2026March 27, 2026 Iris Ruth Pastor

I’ve been scammed and it’s a harrowing experience.  Once scammed, the experience stays with you – like a nagging tooth ache that continuously sears through your consciousness.  Nagging questions keep me up at night: Falling into my inbox is an alert from “UPS” signalling an undeliverable package. SCAM. Popping up on my cell phone is Continue reading

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A Life Lesson from a Dozen Red Roses

March 20, 2026March 20, 2026 Iris Ruth Pastor

The whole saga starts on a routine run to my favorite local thrift shop on “Senior Citizen Discount Day”. Haphazardly displayed behind leftover Christmas ornaments, I spot this totally funky vase and buy it on the spot I make a promise to myself to fill it with deep red blood-colored roses. I intuitively know it Continue reading

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An Unusual Way to Get Close to my Granddaughter

March 6, 2026March 5, 2026 Iris Ruth Pastor

My son and his 15-year-old daughtercame to visit my husband and me.And when they left 3 words did I feel:Blessed. Grateful. And Lonely.  I wanted to keep a piece of my granddaughterclose – with easy access.So I asked her for her favorite song playlist.And hit upon great success. Why? I could understand the singers’ words –relate to Continue reading

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How An 87-Page Book Upended My Life

February 27, 2026February 27, 2026 Iris Ruth Pastor

I found my first cousin Jack from a DNA search and my life has never been the same since that moment in time. Jack is my late mother’s first cousin. His mother and my grandmother were sisters. I lost my very beloved grandmother 71 years ago when I was just seven years old. Finding Jack Continue reading

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New Information on Someone Long Gone

February 20, 2026February 20, 2026 Iris Ruth Pastor

It started on Monday night, February 16th. Up pops a message from one of my elementary school buddies – one with whom I keep in loose, but regular, contact.  “Look at the treasure I just found!” she texted. Directly underneath her brief text was this picture: My mother is on the far left and I am on Continue reading

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The Good Old Days

February 13, 2026February 13, 2026 Iris Ruth Pastor

I called it the “Good Old Days”. I was referring to the time in my life when my parents and in-laws and various other relatives were still alive and well and my kids were still at home.  It seemed to go on forever – those exhausting periods of parenting when there was too much to do, Continue reading

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Weeding Out the Excess

February 6, 2026February 6, 2026 Iris Ruth Pastor

There is a concept which Swedish people embrace as the key to a harmonious life. It is called Lagom – defined as the art of finding perfect balance between too much and too little. (It’s a little foreign to me since I tend to revel in abundance – kinda if some is good, more Is Continue reading

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Incidentally, Iris

For the past ten years, Iris’s “Incidentally Iris” column has appeared in The American Israelite, a weekly newspaper for Cincinnati’s Jewish community and the American Jewish community. Founded as The Israelite on July 15,1854, by Rabbi Isaac Mayer Wise, the paper today is the oldest English-Jewish weekly in America and the second oldest in the world. (The London Jewish Chronicle was founded in 1841.) Read Incidentally, Iris columns on The American Israelite
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